គន្លឹះ៣ដើម្បីស្វែងយល់ថាកូនរបស់អ្នកទទួលការបៀតបៀនផ្លូវកាយ ឬផ្លូវភេទ

ពេលទទួលបានសំនួរថាធ្វើម៉េចដឹងថាកូនរបស់អ្នកត្រូវបានគេបៀតបៀនផ្លូវកាយ ឬផ្លូវភេទ ជាសំនួរដ៏សែនរសើប ប៉ុនែ្តវារឹតតែរសើបជាងនេះទៅទៀតបើអ្នកស្ថិតក្នុងស្ថានភាពនោះ។ ពិភពលោកមានការផ្លាស់ប្តូរច្រើនណាស់  បច្ចុប្បន្នមនុស្សអាចទទួលបាននូវព័ត៌មានគ្រប់បែបយ៉ាង យ៉ាងលឿនដោយប្រើប្រពន្ធ័បច្ចេកវិទ្យា ។តែការទទួលបានសេវាទាំងនេះក៏មិនសុទ្ធតែផ្តល់ផលល្អទាំងស្រុងដែរ ព្រោះពួកគេក៏ទទួលបាននូវចំណេះដឹងមិនល្អមួយចំនួនតាមរយៈបច្ចេកវិទ្យានោះដែរដូចជារឿងអាសអាភាស  រឿងឬរូបភាពបែបរន្ធត់វាយបាញ់សំលាប់ជាដើម។ នៅសហរដ្ឋអាមេរិច តាមការស្រាវជ្រាវរបស់មហាវិទ្យាល័យដើម្បីស្រ្តី (AAUW)​​មានសិស្សានុសិស្សចំនួន៤៨ភាគរយដែលកំពុងសិក្សាថ្នាក់មធ្យម និងវិទ្យាល័យរាយការណ៏ថាធ្លាប់ទទួលរងនូវការបៀតបៀនផ្លូវភេទយ៉ាងហោចណាស់ម្តងពីសំណាក់មិត្តរួមថ្នាក់ ។នៅប្រទេសកម្ពុជា តាមការស្រាវជ្រាវរបស់អង្គការយូនីសេហ្វឆ្នាំ២០១៥ ស្តីពីអំពើហឹង្សាលើកុមាររកឃើញថា  លើសពីពាក់កណ្តាលនៃកុមារកម្ពុជាបានរាយការណ៌ថាធ្លាប់ទទួលរងអំពើហឹង្សាផ្លូវកាយមុនអាយុ១៨ឆ្នាំពីដៃគូរួមភេទ  ឳពុកម្តាយ សាច់ញាតិក្នុងគ្រួសារ ឬសហគមន៏។ ក្នុងនោះមានកុមារកម្ពុជា១ក្នុងចំណោម៣នាក់ទទួលការបៀតបៀនផ្លូវអារម្មណ៏នៅពេលដែលខ្លួនធំធាត់ ។​កុមារី២២ភាគរយ និងកុមារា២៦ភាគរយចាប់ពីអាយុ១៣ដល់២៤ឆ្នាំរាយការណ៌ថាខ្លួនធ្លាប់ទទួលអំពើហឹង្សាផ្លូវអារម្មណ៌ពីឳពុកម្តាយ អ្នកមើលថែ ឬសាច់ញាតិចាស់ទុំ​មុនឈានដល់អាយុ១៨ឆ្នាំ។ ក្នុងនោះ៥ភាគរយទាំងកុមារានិងកុមារីលើកឡើងថាធ្លាប់ទទួលការបៀតបៀនផ្លូវភេទ។

ប៉ុន្តែសំនួរសួរថាហេតុអ្វីយើងត្រូវយកចិត្តទុកដាក់ពីបញ្ហានេះ? តើកុមារដែលជាជនរងគ្រោះនៃអំពើហឹង្សា ឬការបៀតបៀនប្រឈមមុខនឹងបព្ហាអ្វីខ្លះនាថ្ងៃអនាគត?កុមារទាំងនោះនឹងធំធាត់ឡើងដោយភាពបាក់ស្បាតរួមជាមួយបញ្ហាដូចជា៖គេងមិនលក់ លែងមានសមាធិក្នុងការរៀនសូត្រឬអភិវឌ្ឍន៏ខ្លួនឯង លែងចង់ចូលរួមឬមានទំនាក់ទំនងជាមួយអ្នកដទៃ មានភាពតក់ស្លុតខ្លាំងនៅពេលមានការប៉ះពាល់រាងកាយ លែងទុកចិត្តអ្នកដទៃឬមនុស្សជុំវិញខ្លួប បង្ហាញអាការៈធ្វើទណ្ឌកម្មលើខ្លួនឯង ចង់សម្លាប់ខ្លួន ប្រើអាកប្បកិរិយាមិនគប្បីដែលខ្លួនធ្លាប់ទទួលទៅក្មេងដទៃជាដើម។បញ្ហាដែលរៀបរាប់ខាងលើជាហេតុផលសមល្មមដែលអាចអោយមាតាបិតាឬអាណាព្យាបាលផ្តោតការយកចិត្តទុកដាក់បន្ថែមទៀតដល់កូនចៅរបស់ខ្លួន។ ខាងក្រោមនេះជាគន្លឹះមួយចំនួនដើម្បីអនុវត្ត៖

១.ធ្វើជាអ្នកស្តាប់ដ៏ល្អ៖ដើម្បីអោយក្លាយជាអ្នកស្តាប់ដ៏ល្អ អ្នកត្រូវតែធ្វើខ្លួនអោយក្លាយជាមិត្តដ៏ល្អរបស់កូនៗលោកអ្នក តែនេះជាចំណុចដ៏សែនលំបាកព្រោះឳពុកម្តាយភាគច្រើនតែងដើរតួជាអ្នកគ្រប់គ្រងដើម្បីអោយកូនៗស្តាប់បង្គាប់ និងស្តាប់តាមការណែនាំឬគោលការណ៏មួយចំនួនដែលខ្លួនបានរៀបចំ។ក៏ប៉ុន្តែការទទួលបានព័ត៌មានពីកូនជាមធ្យោបាយដែលល្អបំផុត ដូច្នេះអ្នកត្រូវចេះបង្កើនយន្តការទាំងឡាយដែលជម្រុញអោយពួកគេប្រាប់អ្នកនូវរាល់ព័ត៌មានទាំងឡាយដែលពួកគេដឹង និងដែលបានកើតឡើង ហើយយន្តការនោះគឺការធ្វើខ្លួនជាអ្នកស្តាប់ដ៏ល្អ។ដើម្បីធ្វើជាអ្នកស្តាប់ដ៏ល្អ អ្នកត្រូវតែធ្វើជាអ្នកស្តាប់ដែលគ្មានប្រតិកម្មភ្លាមៗទៅនឹងអ្វីដែលអ្នកលឺគ្រប់បែបយ៉ាង ហើយក៏មិនត្រូវធ្វើការសម្រេចចិត្តភ្លាមៗដែរ ។អ្នកត្រូវធ្វើខ្លួនជាអ្នកស្តាប់ដែលគាំទ្រនូវរាល់ការសម្រេចចិត្តទាំងឡាយរបស់កូនៗលោកអ្នក។ អ្នកត្រូវផ្តល់ពេលគ្រប់គ្រាន់ដើម្បីស្តាប់ពីក្តីបារម្មណ៌ ឬភាពសប្បាយរីករាយទាំងឡាយដែលកូនរបស់លោកអ្នកចង់និយាយប្រាប់។ទាំងនេះគឺជាសំនួរគន្លឹះមួយចំនួនសម្រាប់សួរ៖តើទៅរៀនថ្ងៃនេះយ៉ាងម៉េចដែរ?កូនបានរៀនអ្វីខ្លះ?មានរឿងអីសប្បាយចិត្តចង់ប្រាប់ម៉ាក់/ប៉ាអត់?បានទទួលការសរសើរឬ Starសរសើរពីអ្នកគ្រូ/លោកគ្រូអត់ថ្ងៃនេះ?ញាំបាយនៅសាលាថ្ងៃនេះឆ្ងាញ់អត់?បានម្ហូបអ្វីខ្លះ? នៅសាលាមានអ្នកណាចូលចិត្តធ្វើអោយកូនខឹងអត់?លេងជាមួយមិត្តភក្តិសប្បាយអត់ថ្ងៃនេះ?លេងអ្វីខ្លះ? មានកិច្ចការសាលាអោយប៉ាម៉ាក់ជួយពន្យល់អត់?ធ្វើកិច្ចការសាលាហើយឬនៅ?

២.ត្រួតពិនិត្យ ៖​ ពេលមុជទឹកអោយគេរួចពិនិត្យមើលប្រដាប់ភេទ(ក្នុងករណីកុមារនៅតូច មានអាយុប្រហែល៣ទៅ៥ឆ្នាំ)៖ទៅបីជាអ្នករវល់នឹងការងារប៉ុណ្ណា អ្នកត្រូវចំណាយពេលខ្លះដើម្បីមុជទឹកអោយគេ ដើម្បីឆ្លៀតលួចមើលរកស្លាកស្នាមដែលអាចបន្សល់ទុកដូចជាស្នាមក្តិច ជាំ  ខាំ ឈាម​ជាដើម។ អ្នកក៏អាចឆ្លៀតសួរតើមានអ្នកណាប៉ះពាល់ឬលេងប្រដាប់ភេទរបស់កូនឬទេ?ខាងក្រោមនេះជាសំនួរមួយចំនួនដែលអ្នកអាចសួរពួកគេ៖ តើមានអ្នកណាក្រៅពីប៉ា/ម៉ាក់ប៉ះឬលេងប្រដាប់ភេទរបស់កូនឬទេ?ពេលទៅសាលាពេលកូនចង់ចូលបន្ទប់ទឹកតើមានគ្រូជូនទៅឬទេ?ហើយគាត់ធ្វើម៉េចខ្លះ?កូនដែលទៅណាមកណាឬនៅជាមួយគ្រូតែពីរនាក់ដែរឬទេ?ហើយបើមានតើទៅទីណា?ធ្វើអ្វីខ្លះ?

៣.ត្រូវសួរនាំពេលកូនប្រកែក៖ ត្រូវយកចិត្តទុកដាក់ភ្លាមនៅពេលកូនប្រកែកមិនទៅសាលាឬទៅទីណាមួយ។ នៅពេលកូនប្រកែកមិនទៅសាលា ឬមិនទៅទីកន្លែងណាមួយ សូមកុំព្រងើយ។អ្នកត្រូវសាកសួររកមូលហេតុ និងរកអោយឃើញនូវបញ្ហានោះ។អ្នកក៏អាចស្វែងរកព័ត៌មានបន្ថែមពីគ្រូ ឬអ្នកពាក់ពន្ធ័ពីសកម្មភាពរបស់កូនរបស់អ្នកនៅសាលាដែរ។​សំនួរដែលគួរសួរមានដូចជា៖ហេតុអ្វីកូនមិនចង់ទៅសាលា?មានអីដែលធ្វើអោយកូនមិនសប្បាយចិត្តពេលទៅទីនោះ?មានអីដែលប៉ា/ម៉ាក់អាចជួយបានអត់?

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Sanitation and health: what do we want to know?

Sanitation and health: what do we want to know? What do evidences tell us?

Sanitation Updates

Experts meet to discuss reaching a consensus on what the evidence tells us.

Radu Ban Radu Ban

Jan Willem Rosenboom Jan Willem Rosenbom

This is the first of two blogs written about the “Sanitation and health evidence consensus meeting”, convened by the World Health Organization (WHO) in Seattle on May 24 and 25 of 2018. It was written by Jan Willem Rosenboom and Radu Ban, who are both Sr. Program Officers on the Water, Sanitation and Hygiene (WSH) team at the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation. This first blog will describe the process used to arrive at the consensus, while the second blog will describe the outcome of the consensus and will come out once the results of the consensus meeting have been published. Also, mark your calendars for a session during the 2018 UNC Water and Health conference dedicated to this consensus!

Cambodia - India Two sides of sanitation rubbish and cleanliness. Credit Bill & Melinda Gates FoundationTwo sides of sanitation: rubbish and cleanliness. Credit Bill & Melinda Gates…

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គិតមុនគូ

Think before you judge

វេជ្ជបណ្ឌិតម្នាក់ប្រញាប់ប្រញាល់ដើរចូលទៅក្នុងមន្ទីរពេទ្យមួយបន្ទាប់ពីមានការហៅ ទូរសព្ទ័ជាបន្ទាន់ដើម្បីធ្វើការវះកាត់។គាត់ធ្វើការផ្លាស់ប្តូរសំលៀកបំពាក់ យ៉ាងប្រញាប់ ហើយបន្តដំណើរទៅផ្នែកវះកាត់ដោយគ្មានបង្អង់។ តាមផ្លូវទៅបន្ទប់ វះកាត់ គាត់ឃើញបុរសម្នាក់ដើរឆ្លេឆ្លា រង់ចាំការមកដល់របស់វេជ្ជ បណ្ឌិត។

គ្រាន់តែឃើញវេជ្ជបណ្ឌិតភ្លាម បុរសម្នាក់នោះស្រែកឡើង៖ ´´ហេតុអ្វីលោកទើប មកដល់? លោកមានដឹងទេថាជីវិតរបស់កូនប្រុសខ្ញុំនៅ ខាងក្នុងកំពុងស្ថិត ក្នុងគ្រោះថ្នាក់? តើលោកមិនស្គាល់អ្វីជាការទទួលខុសត្រូវទេឬអី?​​​ ´

វេជ្ជបណ្ឌិតញញឹមហើយតប៖  ´ខ្ញុំសូមទោសព្រោះខ្ញុំមិនស្ថិតនៅក្នុងមន្ទីរពេទ្យទេ មុននេះ ខ្ញុំព្យាយាមមកឆាប់បំផុតតាមដែលខ្ញុំអាចធ្វើបានបន្ទាប់ពីទទួលទូរសព្ទ័។ ហើយពេលនេះខ្ញុំចង់អោយលោកសម្រួលអារម្មណ៏សិនទៅ ហើយទុកអោយ ខ្ញុំបំពេញការងាររបស់ខ្ញុំ´។

´សម្រួលអារម្មណ៏? បើកូនប្រុសរបស់លោកកំពុងស្ថិតក្នុងបន្ទប់នោះ តើលោក សម្រួលអារម្មណ៏បានដែរឬអត់? បើកូនប្រុសរបស់លោក ស្លាប់នៅពេលរង់ចាំ គ្រូពេទ្យមកដល់ តើលោកធ្វើយ៉ាងម៉េច?ឳពុកក្មេង​ប្រុសនិយាយបែបខឹង។ វេជ្ជបណ្ឌិតញញឹមតប ហើយឆ្លើយថា ៖ ​´ យើងនឹងធ្វើអោយអស់ពី លទ្ធភាពដើម្បី ជួយសង្គ្រោះ ហើយសូមលោកចូលរួមជួយបន់ស្រន់ផង។´

បុរសជាឳពុករអ៊ូ៖​​´ និយាយចេះតែស្រួលហើយ ព្រោះលោកមិនមែនជាសាច់ញាតិ´។

ការវះកាត់ចំណាយពេលជាច្រើនម៉ោង រួចវេជ្ជបណ្ឌិតក៏ចេញមកទាំងទឹកមុខញញឹម ៖​´អរគុណព្រះជាម្ចាស់ កូនរបស់លោករួចជីវិតហើយ។​ មិនបង្អង់ចាំការឆ្លើយតបរបស់ ឳពុកក្មេងប្រុស វេជ្ជបណ្ឌិតរត់បណ្តើរ និយាយបណ្តើរ៖ ​´បើលោកមានសំណួរបន្ថែម សូមសួរគិលានុបដ្ឋាយិការចុះ´។

´ហេតុអ្វីក៏វេជ្ជបណ្ឌិតម្នាក់នេះប្រើចរិកឈ្លើយបែបនេះ?​ម៉េចក៏គាត់មិនអាចចាំពីរបី  នាទីអោយខ្ញុំសួរពី អាការៈកូនរបស់ខ្ញុំបានទេហ្អី?´ ឳពុកក្មេងប្រុសរអ៊ូ នៅពេលជួបជា មួយគិលានុបដ្ឋាយិការក្រោយការចាកចេញរបស់វេជ្ជបណ្ឌិត។ គិលានុបដ្ឋាយិការ ឆ្លើយតបទាំងទឹកភ្នែករលីងរលោង ៖​´ កូនប្រុសរបស់គាត់ស្លាប់កាលពីម្សិលមុិញ ដោយសារគ្រោះថ្នាក់ចរាចរ​ ពេលដែលយើងទូរសព្ទ័ហៅគាត់មកធ្វើការ វះកាត់កូន របស់លោក គាត់កំពុងធ្វើពិធីបុណ្យសពកូនរបស់គាត់។ ហើយឥឡូវគាត់ ត្រឡប់ទៅ បន្តពិធីបុណ្យសពរបស់កូនគាត់។​´

សីលធម៌៖កុំវិភាគនរណាម្នាក់បើអ្នកមិនបានដឹងពីខ្សែជីវិតរបស់ពួកគេ និងអ្វីដែលគេបានឆ្លងកាត់។

ដោយ Keisha, United Kingdom

“You are very productive!”

Harassment at working place is common in Cambodia. There are many types of harassment that you sometimes ignored or didn’t think it is actually women rights abuse. Some bitter story happened to me during my second pregnancy. I was working in an organization where almost all senior management are male. I was in the middle management position by that time. I didn’t realize my pregnancy until I am about to catch a flight for international conference. I kept it secret because it shocked me too. My first baby was just about one year and few months, I didn’t expect to have another baby this soon.

During my stay for about a week there, I decided to announce my 2nd pregnancy news during dinner. The first comment from one of the board of director was: “Congratulation! You are very productive.” The Executive Director was quiet for few minute like he was shock or something and then said to me with a very no exciting voice: “well, congratulation then”.

In that institution, the health insurance was provided and an annual-lumpsum-health budget line were given to every individual staff. Though, that amount of health budget was not able to cover the pregnancy medical checkup. I could truly understand the funding circumstances, though, it would be very helpful if that budget line would have been specifically addressed for the pregnant staffs as monthly check-up is crucial. The health insurance should also have considered the un-expected c-section as it costs quite a lot.

After leaving that organization for another better place where I could get my medical cost covered, I had to struggle another issue. The interview panel did not get a chance to know my pregnancy until they offered me the post because I was about 3 months pregnant during the writing test and the oral interview was made through skype.  Finally, they got me on board while I was almost 6 months pregnant. The male panelist and the HR person from the head office said positively about my pregnancy after I informed them. They said I was selected because of your capability; my pregnancy was nothing to be judged during the process. I was so happy hearing that. I was feeling like I was in the heaven. I was feeling that I came to the right place. But when I get to the job, I found out that one colleague who held the position of HR within that organization blamed to the male panelist of selecting me. She complained that I will deliver after 3 or 4 months of working, who is going to carry out my tasks? This made me realized that this was probably one of the reasons she kept giving me a hard time.

“Why do women have to suffer? We are the mother of the earth but we are suffering. Why can’t you treat us the same way you treat the men?”

I had a chance to visit a project supporting entertainment women on HIV and STD test in Kampot province in Cambodia. I interviewed some girls about the test she had every three months. She mentioned of having pregnancy test every month by the KTV’s owner or leader. She needed to be tested and get the abortion if she was accidentally pregnant with clients or with her partner. She said she had to choose between keeping the job and the baby. She also wanted the real family but she won’t be employed and would have no more income. Some garment factory workers also being refused to get employed if the factory owner found out that she is pregnant because they don’t want to spend that 3 month of maternity leave payment. Some workers were insulted or were given a hard time until she resigns if they found out that she is pregnant.

With this article, I would like to shout out to everyone to mind your words whenever you comment to women about her pregnancy. If you are a man, please kindly put yourself into her shoes. You don’t get pregnant, so you don’t get that responsibility. You have absolutely NO IDEA how much women sacrifice during her pregnancy and why does she have to choose between personal life and professional life? You are the man; you don’t get pregnant and carry that big belly along to work and to pretend like you are super energetic. You don’t need to get sleepless from your pregnancy and keep coming to work like nothing had happened last night. You are not worried in every job interviews that you will be judged of being pregnant and will need maternity leave.

Why do women have to suffer? We are the mother of the earth but we are suffering. Why can’t you treat us the same way you treat the man?

Chickens

This is an inspiring story I read few months a go about a skillful artist. He is the best artist in town. The king has offered him an assignment to draw the most beautiful chickens. If he fails to draw such beautiful chickens, he will be arrested and killed afterward. He gets one month to fulfill the assignment. Since then, the artist starts getting all beautiful chicken, cage them and draw them. After three weeks, he still could not draw the most beautiful chickens. All the chickens in the painting are either looks sad or not lively. The artist gets panic and keeps painting day and night without sleeping. Nevertheless, he still can’t paint the most beautiful chicken.

Knowing that he would be arrested the next day and will be killed, he decided to release all the chickens from the cage, so they can live after he is arrested. After few hours, he found the chickens freely and happily runs around here and there. They all looks stunning and happy. Then, he starts painting those lively and happily chickens. He finally gets the most beautiful and happy chickens and he, then, is praised with huge gift from the king and live happily ever after.

 

Moral: The best of you won’t come in the stressful/pressure environment, so relax and do thing with pleasure.

មានហេតុ មានផល

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បុរសចំណាស់ម្នាក់រស់នៅក្នុងភូមិមួយនៃស្រុកដាច់ស្រយាល។ថ្ងៃមួយបុរសចំណាស់ប្រទះឃើញសេះ ដាច់បង្ហៀរ មកពីណាមិនដឹងនៅក្នុងព្រៃ  គាត់ក៏ដឹកសេះនោះមកផ្ទះ។ អ្នកភូមិគ្រប់គ្នាស្ងើចសសើរ សំណាងរបស់គាត់ដែលទទួលបានសេះមួយដោយមិនបាច់ចំណាយប្រាក់ទិញ។ ប៉ុន្តែបុរសចំណាស់ លើកឡើងថា ៖ជួនកាល រឿងល្អដែលកើតឡើង មិនប្រាកដថាជារឿងល្អនោះទេ។ គ្រប់គ្នាគិតថាបុរស នោះឆ្កួតលីលា។ ថ្ងៃបន្ទាប់មក កូនប្រុសរបស់គាត់ស្រាប់តែធ្លាក់ពីលើខ្នងសេះនោះ រហូតដល់បាក់ជើង។គ្រប់គ្នានៅក្នុងភូមិ នាំគ្នាលើកឡើងថា សេះនោះនាំសំណាងមិនល្អដល់គ្រួសារគាត់ ព្រោះថាវាបាន ធ្វើអោយកូនប្រុសតែមួយរបស់គាត់បាក់ជើង ដែលធ្វើអោយគ្រួសាររបស់គាត់ត្រូវចំណាយថវិការ និងពេលវេលាជាច្រើនដើម្បីព្យាបាល។  ប៉ុន្តែបុរសចំណាស់លើកឡើងថា ៖ជួនកាល រឿងមិនល្អដែល កើតឡើង មិនប្រាកដថាជារឿងមិនល្អនោះទេ។

ស្រាប់តែខែក្រោយមក រដ្ឋាភិបាលបានចេញគោលការណ៌មកថាគ្រប់គ្រួសារដែលមាន កូនប្រុសចាប់ពី អាយុ១៨ឆ្នាំឡើងទៅ និងមានកាយសម្បទាគ្រប់គ្រាន់ ត្រូវកេណ្ឌធ្វើជាទាហានដើម្បីចេញច្បាំង។ ជាភព្វ័សំណាង កូនប្រុសតែមួយរបស់គាត់មិនត្រូវបានរដ្ឋកេណ្ឌធ្វើជាទាហានទេ ព្រោះវាទើបតែ គ្រោះថ្នាក់ រហូតដល់បាក់ជើង និងត្រូវចំណាយពេលវេលាមួយរយៈធំទៀត ដើម្បីអោយជាសះស្បើយ៕

គ្រប់រឿងដែលកើតឡើង សុទ្ធតែមានហេតុ និងមានផលរបស់វា។ នៅពេលអ្នកមិនទាន់ស្មានដឹងថា អ្វីទៅជាហេតុផល  សូមគិតទុកថា ទេវតាមានគិតដិតដល់រួចហើយ ហេតុផលគ្រាន់តែត្រូវ ការពេល វេលាគ្រប់គ្រាន់ដើម្បីចេញមកបង្ហាញខ្លួនតែប៉ុណ្ណោះ។

A Little Girl, A Big Life

Her name is Phoung Chann Daneth. My Daneth was about 5 years old while her parents died with HIV. Her mother is my relative who was babysitting me 20 years ago. Daneth is the 2nd girl whom unfortunately affected by HIV from birth. Her two siblings were so fortunate for not affected. I decided to adopt Daneth because her auntie wanted to send her to the orphanage after the death of the parents while other two siblings were raised at her house. I was still a university student that time, can’t earn anything, so it was a big generosity of my mum who is a breadwinner in the family as my father was physically and mentally ill after a dreadful traffic accident when I was about 5 years old. Daneth moved to our small home and sleep in my room with me and my sister. She didn’t know that she carried HIV, she just learned that she has a disease that made her getting diarrhea every day. So we had Bactrim, diarrhea prevention tablet, and some vitamins made available in our fridge all the time, as she needed to take it every day.

Before the death of her mother, Daneth’s mother was staying in our house, that is a reason that our neighbor knew her HIV condition. I have not seen neighbors’ kids played with her but elderly  people loved her and enjoy her reading. At 7 years old, she could read fluently and because my dad and neighbors asked her to read newspaper for them every day outside the school hours. She graded high in almost all subjects because my dad was home and always reminded her to do her homework and tutorial. She is very smart, I remembered how much joy she had when I kissed her to praise her for having a great score in class. Though, life is not as sweet as we expected. I remembered there was no neighboring kids play with her, though, they feel pity on her. I remembered one time that her leg got hurt by small piece of wood. I brought her to our neighbor nurse to remove that small wood. The local nurse knew her condition, he didn’t want to do it, he asked me to remove it. So I did it.

Daneth was very healthy after living with us for few years, until she started taking HIV treatment provided by a non-governmental organization. The medicine was provided twice daily directly to our house, she had to take it in front of the NGO’s staff, to avoid any disruption or selling the medicine to others. Since then, Daneth could not join me to anywhere as she had to be home for that medicine. I graduated in late 2003 and got a job at the border to Thailand, Othdar Meanchey province. I proposed to my family to bring her a long during her school vacation and she was so thrilled to join me. Given the condition of her medicine, she could go nowhere.

Since then, I returned home only one time every three to four months. I could only talk to her through phone once a week with renting phone as I didn’t have my own yet. We agreed that she would bring me flowers to my upcoming graduation day. But then one day, my mum said Daneth is very sick, I sent her some money and asked if I should come home, so I can be more helpful. She said no as it is very far and my mum thought she could manage it. Until again, she called and informed that Daneth died in the hospital and we can’t do anything, and we knew that because HIV can’t be treated. She died in 8 years old in the children hospital, while she was in grade 3.

After her death, I started reflecting back on what happen to her life. Without the discrimination by her auntie, Daneth would live happily with her sibling. Without the discrimination of the neighbor, Daneth would have a joyful life like other children in the neighborhood. Times passed, nothing could change, though we could do thing differently. I want to give a big shout to everyone NOT to treat the HIV affected people the same way they treated Daneth. She is already very unfortunate to be affected by this horrible disease. Give her love, embrace her life. It meant everything to her. A hug, holding hand and a kiss won’t harm.

 

Dedicated to my beautiful Phoung Chan Daneth.

Died in 2004.

UNiTE 2016-2017 Song contest to end violence against women

UN Women and the Embassy of Canada in Thailand invite you to capture the spirit of the Secretary General’s UNiTE to End Violence against Women Campaign by making your own music video for the UNiTE Campaign Song 2016-2017 to win $1,500 CAD in prizes.

You are welcome to use the song as is or to sing a cover version of the song in English or in your own language. The video clip should feature your campaign message to end violence against women and girls, and whenever possible, any campaign activities that you and your community have engaged in.

Learn more from: http://ow.ly/KhpN306EMUZ

THEME

The general theme is UNiTE: End Violence against Women. Under the general campaign theme, the video clip may also include the following messages:

  • Ending violence against women and girls
  • Gender equality
  • Ending violence against women and girls is everyone’s responsibility
  • Respectful relationships between genders
  • Healthy masculinity
  • Campaign colour which is orange

Participants are encouraged to feature campaign and advocacy activities in their video clips and to portray a sense of hope and optimism.

 HOW TO ENTER

  1. Make a music video clip featuring the UNiTE campaign song. You may use the version of the song provided, sing a cover version of the song or write your own song.
  2. Upload the clip onto Youtube and accompany it with a description of the theme chosen, shooting location with the hashtag #UNiTEsong, #16Days
  3. Email the Youtube link to asia-pacific.unite@unwomen.org with your name, contact details and your country to automatically enter the contest.
  4. Share your Youtube clip widely with friends and networks. The more views you get, the more likely you will win the prizes

TIMELINE

The contest is open from 25 November 2016 until 15 February 2017. Entries received after the deadline will not be considered. Winners will be announced in Bangkok on 8 March 2017, International Women’s Day.

For more information, visit UN Women Asia-Pacific website: http://ow.ly/KhpN306EMUZ

-Listen to a UNiTE campaign song by Thailand:  http://ow.ly/giWb306EMMu

-Listen to “be the light” and watch the video clip on our YouTube channel here: http://ow.ly/FUHp306EMSd

-Listen to end violence song from Indonesia called “My Sister Is In Danger”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15Nhq2Da9-o

 

 

 

“Transnational Feminisms and Women’s Activism”_CALL FOR APPLICANTS

Where: Ewha Womans University, Seoul, South Korea
Application Submission: March 21 ~ April 10, 2016
Training date:10th EGEP is from July 10 to 24, 2016 while the 11th EGEP will be on
 January 8 to 22, 2017
EGEP is a two-week residential educational program that takes place twice a year (summer and winter) offered by Ewha Womans University. According the MOU between Ewha Women University and UN Women, this program aims to promote education for women and gender equality in Asia and Africa by empowering women working in non-governmental public sectors and by nourishing the next generation of women leaders. Program Goals On completing this program, participants will have:
improved their theoretical knowledge and practical capacities from a gender
perspective; broadened their understanding of women’s lives, women’s issues, and women’s rights in Asian and African contexts; and strengthened their feminist leadership capacities to build women’s solidarity and cooperation in local, national, and transnational contexts.

Programs While a more specific EGEP curriculum will be provided separately, the
following are the major activities that participants may expect from the program:
Lecture Seminars, Open Forum, Action Plans, Social Hours, Group Talk and Study Tours to Korean NGOs

Eligibility With minimum three years of experience, women activists working in
international and national non-governmental public sectors in Asia and Africa, such as NGOs, NPOs, civil society organizations, including individuals working independently are encouraged to apply for this program.
Number of Participants: 20~25 for every term of EGEP.

Selection Criteria The selection committee will evaluate the applicants based on the
following criteria:field experience 25%, expertise in women’s issues 25%, potential as next generation of women leaders 25%, contribution to the community 25%.
Application Requirements: Application Form, Curriculum Vitae, Statement of Purpose,
Essay, Letter of Recommendation.

Selection Requirements: These requirements are only for those who have been notified as
selected EGEP participants: Abstract, 5-page paper, Language English is the official language of the EGEP.
Funding Ewha Womans University provides the funding to cover fees for the tuition,
dormitory, and a two-week allowance for all the participants. Funds for airfare will be awarded only to the participants from ODA beneficiary countries. Contact Us For more information, please visit the website of the organizing institution, Asian Center for Women’s Studies, at http://home.ewha.ac.kr/~acws/eng/ or contact us via
email at egep@ewha.ac.kr

Important Notes:
1. From 2015 onward, EGEP participants for two terms in one fiscal year will be selected in
May. When necessary, the organizing institution may additionally recruit participants at
any time of the year. Selected EGEP participants who fail to attend the EGEP at the term
indicated will not be automatically considered to participate in the following term.
2. Application requirements should be submitted online (http://egep.ewha.ac.kr).
3. All forms are downloadable at http://egep.ewha.ac.kr.
4. Successful candidates will be informed individually via e-mail by May 11, 2016.

Student Essay Contest and Global Youth Forum 2016 in USA

Deadline: March 31, 2016
Location: United Nations Headquarters in New York City, USA
Date: July 25-31, 2016
Type: Fully Funded

60 Students will be selected as delegates to the 2016 United Nations Academic Impact Global Youth Forum, 25-31 July, 2016, where they will create action plans related to the United Nations 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development. The students will present these action plans at United Nations Headquarters in New York City.

Eligibility:

  • You will need to demonstrate both written and verbal competency in the language of the essay;
  • You must be a full-time university student, recommended and endorsed by a Faculty Member or University Representative;
  • You must be 18 years of age or older by the contest deadline.

Cost: Airfare, Room and Meals will be provided by ELS Educational Services, Inc.

To Participate:

Write an original essay (2,000 words or less) discussing global citizenship and cultural understanding and the role that multilingual ability can play in fostering these. The essay should reflect your personal, academic, cultural and national context. Essays must be written in an official language of the United Nations that is not your first language or primary language of instruction during your primary or secondary education. The official United Nations languages are Arabic, Chinese, English, French, Russian and Spanish.

Entry Process:

  1. Write your essay according to the contest rules and eligibility guidelines.
  2. Share your essay with the University Faculty Member or Authorized Representative who recommended you so that s/he can attest to the fact that you have followed the contest rules.
  3. Have that Faculty Member or University Administrator complete the Faculty Member/University Administrator Reference Form in support of your participation in the contest.
  4. After the Faculty Reference form is submitted, the Faculty Member will receive an email from Many Languages, One World requesting confirmation of the reference.
  5. Make sure that your Faculty member looks for this email and clicks on the confirmation link. They may need to check their spam or junk mail folder. If your Faculty member does not confirm their recommendation, you will not be able to submit an entry.
  6. Once the Reference Form has been received and confirmed by Many Languages, One World, you will receive an email with further information, and a link where you can complete your Student Entry Form and upload your essay to the contest website.
  7. The Student Entry Form must be completed in its entirety, and in English. If your entry form is incomplete, you will be disqualified. Be sure to include your government-issued identity card number or passport number, and submit your full name as it appears on your official documents or passport. Do not submit your photo.
  8. At the bottom of the Student Entry form you will find the link to upload your essay to the contest website.
  9. The essay must be submitted/uploaded in MS WORD format. Please title your essay as follows: LastName_FirstName-LanguageofEssay (ie, Smith_Jane-Arabic). Do not include a cover page with personal information, as the essays will be evaluated anonymously.
  10. Only essays submitted through this link will be accepted. You can only submit one essay.
  11. Essays must be received by 11:59pm Eastern Standard Time on Thursday 31 March, 2016 in order to qualify. Do not wait until the deadline date to submit. Give yourself time to ensure that your essay will be received successfully.